04-13-2022, 02:52 AM
And think about this...
Say you have a kid at 20.
When they're 15, you're 35.
So if you spent all those important early adulthood years taking care of a kid, did you really learn anything useful about life to relay to them?
When the fuck did you get a chance to learn anything about life that they didn't experience right along with you at the time?
Say you're 25 and you have a shite experience... your 5 year old kid is going to see the effects that experience had on you, but the likelihood they'll understand that experience or take away any profound info from it is LOW.
So they'll have been upset by your response to the experience, but they're not gonna actually learn anything from it. They're not gonna understand it and note that information so they can avoid such experiences for themselves in the future.
It would have been better if you could have learned from that experience without having a child around who also had to second hand suffer because of it. That way, in the future, at the age of 35 when you finally had a kid, you'd be armed with more knowledge, you'd avoid bad situations...
And on down the line when the kid is 15, and you're 50, you can tell them about that experience from LONG AGO, and they can learn from your wisdom.
They would have never had to experience that trauma whatsoever.
Say you have a kid at 20.
When they're 15, you're 35.
So if you spent all those important early adulthood years taking care of a kid, did you really learn anything useful about life to relay to them?
When the fuck did you get a chance to learn anything about life that they didn't experience right along with you at the time?
Say you're 25 and you have a shite experience... your 5 year old kid is going to see the effects that experience had on you, but the likelihood they'll understand that experience or take away any profound info from it is LOW.
So they'll have been upset by your response to the experience, but they're not gonna actually learn anything from it. They're not gonna understand it and note that information so they can avoid such experiences for themselves in the future.
It would have been better if you could have learned from that experience without having a child around who also had to second hand suffer because of it. That way, in the future, at the age of 35 when you finally had a kid, you'd be armed with more knowledge, you'd avoid bad situations...
And on down the line when the kid is 15, and you're 50, you can tell them about that experience from LONG AGO, and they can learn from your wisdom.
They would have never had to experience that trauma whatsoever.
