05-08-2017, 06:41 AM
Open relationships and swinging isn't for everyone, it can really screw with a person's psyche.
I think it boils down to his inability to be loyal. Then that screwed her up because it went against her principles, she probably feels guilty af whereas he doesn't care. I can see his point to not have feelings as doing something wrong but there is an essential need for loyalty because anything else is like back stabbing, there is no trust. Loyalty is a foundation for most everything.
Loyalty isn't just a husband wife thing, it's a family thing. My husband was raised to have strong loyal ties with his family, if his mother didn't speak to his sister, he didn't speak to her sister. They kept it tight knit, I wasn't raised this way so it's a total blessing for me to belong to a family that is as loyal af. We teach our kids that if someone say's something about the other, you kick their ass. This is what keeps a family strong and together.
The lack of a man being loyal to his wife, then he cannot be loyal to his own household and that keeps other people feeling insecure. I know this because my dad was a serial cheater too, there was never a sense of belonging and I couldn't trust my parents because of the situation they both put me in.
I think it boils down to his inability to be loyal. Then that screwed her up because it went against her principles, she probably feels guilty af whereas he doesn't care. I can see his point to not have feelings as doing something wrong but there is an essential need for loyalty because anything else is like back stabbing, there is no trust. Loyalty is a foundation for most everything.
Loyalty isn't just a husband wife thing, it's a family thing. My husband was raised to have strong loyal ties with his family, if his mother didn't speak to his sister, he didn't speak to her sister. They kept it tight knit, I wasn't raised this way so it's a total blessing for me to belong to a family that is as loyal af. We teach our kids that if someone say's something about the other, you kick their ass. This is what keeps a family strong and together.
The lack of a man being loyal to his wife, then he cannot be loyal to his own household and that keeps other people feeling insecure. I know this because my dad was a serial cheater too, there was never a sense of belonging and I couldn't trust my parents because of the situation they both put me in.
