12-22-2017, 03:25 PM
(12-22-2017, 03:19 PM)Trix Wrote: So when someone approaches you because they think you're attractive, but you have extreme self-confidence issues... you're going to close up and be totally shy, which to the other person is going to come off as you seeming like a total asshole. After all, what could be the problem? You're very good looking, they assume you know that... so when you react in a shy, elusive way, they think you're an ASSHOLE. They can't comprehend why you would react in a shy way because they don't ASSUME you have a totally warped self-view and low self-esteem.
You gotta understand this central point...
People aren't clairvoyant.
If you're a good looking person, but you have a warped sense of yourself, you have low self-esteem, etc., people aren't going to ASSUME that.
People are going to ASSUME you're confident, BECAUSE you're good looking.
So when people approach you and you close up and become shy, they're not going to interpret it as shyness...
They're going to interpret it as you acting like an ASSHOLE.
And they're gonna leave thinking, "I never should have approached that guy (or girl), I should have known they'd be an asshole (or a bitch) because they are so good looking. What was I thinking?"
The person who approached you leaves thinking you're a complete asshole because you didn't even fucking RESPOND.
People need to get this through their heads.
