07-30-2018, 06:27 PM
It's sad to say it, but it looks as though one really must just go with their first intuitive impressions of people.
It's something that people like to debate about because we as humans enjoy flexing the muscle of imagination, and our existence hinges on mating/reproduction, so it makes sense we'd take a fanciful outlook on people who we're attracted to.
You run into somebody like Zane, you immediately know he's headed nowhere good... you call it for what it is, but then you get reeled in anyway.
The only question is how many times are you going to run the cycle and have him prove who he is again before you leave him in the dust?
It's not just Zane... it's all toxic people. How many times do we run through the cycle with them before we just dump 'em and never look back?
Well, ideally, we wouldn't even go through one cycle with them. Ideally we would assess the situation intuitively, and if our first impressions were bad, we wouldn't involve ourselves with that person for even one cycle.
I'm sure after so many bad experiences, a lot of people do get to the place where they don't even bother with people beyond the initial (negative) intuitive assessment.
But it takes some hard lessons before people reach that point of discernment and discipline...
So the only hope is that we don't bind ourselves to people in a permanent kinda way (i.e., by having kids, or by committing other irreversible acts) and that we can leave the lesson relatively unscathed and merely wiser for the wear.
It's something that people like to debate about because we as humans enjoy flexing the muscle of imagination, and our existence hinges on mating/reproduction, so it makes sense we'd take a fanciful outlook on people who we're attracted to.
You run into somebody like Zane, you immediately know he's headed nowhere good... you call it for what it is, but then you get reeled in anyway.
The only question is how many times are you going to run the cycle and have him prove who he is again before you leave him in the dust?
It's not just Zane... it's all toxic people. How many times do we run through the cycle with them before we just dump 'em and never look back?
Well, ideally, we wouldn't even go through one cycle with them. Ideally we would assess the situation intuitively, and if our first impressions were bad, we wouldn't involve ourselves with that person for even one cycle.
I'm sure after so many bad experiences, a lot of people do get to the place where they don't even bother with people beyond the initial (negative) intuitive assessment.
But it takes some hard lessons before people reach that point of discernment and discipline...
So the only hope is that we don't bind ourselves to people in a permanent kinda way (i.e., by having kids, or by committing other irreversible acts) and that we can leave the lesson relatively unscathed and merely wiser for the wear.
